For a long time I lived with the story that I was the girl most guys looked at and just wanted to spend the night with, and that when they realized I was so much more they'd get scared and run. Or they'd stay because I was too hard to pass up, but since they weren't looking for long term, know they wouldn't be around long term.
This was may agreement. This was what I believed. And I'll tell ya, it didn't help that as an actress I was always cast as the other woman/seductress. The power of perception... But then, with the love of a wonderful and respectful divine masculine, the support of sisterhood and most importantly - intensive self love & self care, I was able to create a new story and I'm sticking to it. In this story I'm not "too much" for a guy, but the perfect amount of delicately strong for the right one. I'm not "dangerous" as several have told me in the past, I'm exciting and exhilarating for the one who is comfortable enough in his ability to hold space for the divine feminine.
I'm the woman to have a ton of fun with, the woman to adventure with, the woman to share ecstatic intimacy with and the woman who will build a lovingly massive empire while my partner builds his. And, I'm definitely the woman to take home to mom, the woman to build a family with, the woman who will be the most wonderful mother and the woman who will honor, respect and embrace, allowing myself to be supported and held.
But first, I'll do me. First, I'll explore life on my terms. First, I'll ride this wave solo and discover every crevice and every nook. I will come to know myself so fully, shed all the illusions I can, so that when divine love does flow into my life, the force with which I meet it is clear, open, grounded and whole.
Stepping into your power, owning your power: what does that mean?
To me it means owning that I have worth, and recognizing that I am valuable, with a unique service to offer the world. Because we all have a purpose and we all have a reason to be here, otherwise we wouldn't be. If you don't ever figure out what yours is, then you'll just end up working for someone else who has, and the world will never get to experience your unique service.
Realizing your purpose, though? That can be tricky. Because, (although things are changing) so far, we've grown up in a society that doesn't necessarily prize individual expression. What is values is following the rules and not making a fuss.
So to figure out what you as a unique individual can offer, you may have to get past some habits and patterns that cause you to "knee-jerk" reaction agree with others or deny our instincts in order to go along with the crowd and not look too different.
For me the first step is creating boundaries to people who make me feel different or wrong for having opinions that may go against "the norm". Instead I focus on gathering people around me who I know are comfortable enough with themselves to not judge others. The more I shift my focus in this direction, the more I find like-minded individuals flowing into my life. I believe it's because this is what I am "calling in". I am sending a message to the universe that this is what I deserve: acceptance. Therefore that is what I receive.
Then I practice acknowledging what is there, without judgement. It's okay to not want to stand out or be too different, for fear of being judged. In these moments I say to myself: "it's ok, you're safe." Because as I continue to gather people around me who vibrate at the same frequency, I feel more accepted.
Next: I listen to my instincts. Don't just pass those "hunches" off as meaningless! Intuition is powerful, and the more you acknowledge it the more it will develop. It's just like a muscle, the more you work it the stronger it will get.
As you allow yourself the space to listen to what your heart is saying, and build the support system around you to follow those messages, you will be a led on a path toward the direction of your purpose.
So go ahead: create healthy boundaries, acknowledge what is truly coming up for you and listen. Acknowledge what is there, without judging yourself. Listen to what arises when you allow yourself the gift of acceptance. As you come to accept yourself, you will allow others around you to do the same. This is how we change the world.
This is a tip that goes deeper than magnesium or zinc, although both of which are very important. Science has now proven that our cells are influenced by their environment, and they will express themselves in relation to that environment. In fact, genetics are actually a very small fraction of the puzzle.
What's also been proven is that our thoughts play a huge part in creating this environment. Therefore our thoughts have a tangibility. As do our emotions. When you start to feel an emotion, anger for example, if you pause, you can actually feel a physical sensation arising in your body. The thing is, when you don't express that emotion or acknowledge it, it doesn't go away. It stays there in the body. And just like your thoughts, it creates an environment which your cells are then influenced by. However, when you acknowledge your emotions and honour them, you give them an opportunity to actually be released, rather than compacted, which would later lead to physical dis-eases.
So the next time you feel an emotion bubbling up, if you're not comfortable expressing it right there, write it down. Journal about it. Do something to acknowledge that it exists, and you may just find that you feel quite a bit better. Especially in the long run.
We are creating something big. We are creating something deep. We are creating something that will touch people individually, collectively, globally.
There is an awakening across the planet. It radiates out into the cosmos. Or maybe, it’s radiating from the cosmos.
What are you here to do? Why are you on this planet? Is it to make lots of money in stocks or real estate and then hoard it away, or use it to buy more stuff made by some faceless hands in a far away place under conditions your wouldn’t wish upon your enemies? Do you know how those fabrics were dyed? Do you know the towns that were affected from the contaminated rivers? The children born with deformities?
Are you on this planet to raise conscious awareness, or did you come here to drive us deeper into ego?
Choose love. Choose life. Because, what else are we going to do?
Something provocatively exciting is coming to Toronto Saturday July 29th!
It's a space to connect, explore, and heal ideas that may not be yours
but were given to you by society, culture, parents, friends, etc.
In this space we will laugh in the face of social taboos,
what's "polite", and what we "should or shouldn't say".
This space is called the Cosmic C*nt Conference.
Or, the Cuntference.
We will explore the way we use language,
and give new meaning to words in which
the old meaning is no longer serving our highest evolution.
We have the power to create our lives, the power to heal our hurts,
and the self-worth to receive support as we release all that we do not need to carry with us.
We will gather at Christie Pits (next to Christie subway station) from 12-8pm.
Stay for the day or drop by at your pleasure
The day’s activities will include:
Talking circles about pleasure and nutrition
Arts and Crafts
Touch and communication exercises
Yoni egg raffle
If you have instruments, please bring them! Let's jam!
We’re coming together in solidarity and love, for fun, to shift the context we all share around the source of life -- pussy. It will be a fun, casual day of creating and sharing, so join us when you can and feel free to leave at your pleasure.
To be clear, this event is inclusive to ALL BEINGS, regardless of sex or gender.
This is a family friendly event!
Feel free to bring little ones – we’ll have arts and crafts available all day.
♥ Suggested donation $10 ♥
Exploring what we as women are capable of:
Open Heart Council retreat
Early bird pricing on now until July 1st (starting at $999 USD)
Open Heart Council website
So often we say that our mind makes decisions but our heart "gets in the way". Or "I know what I'm supposed to do but my heart is telling me something else".
I think we may have it upside down.
I think that our heart knows all things. Our heart has an electromagnetic field that is 60 times more powerful than our brains, as measured in an electrocardiogram (ECG). So when we are making a decision, how can it be that our mind is the “rational” one? What if we’ve had it upside down this whole time and it’s actually our heart that's making the rational decisions?
I once heard a spiritual teacher say that our mind can be likened to a computer. It receives information via our 5 senses and computes it based on past experience. We also receive information in the form of emotions, which when computed by our mind can cause confusion, perhaps because they are so changeable.
Our heart, on the other hand, just “knows”. If you were to stop, breathe, breathe into your heart space and say “what I’m I really feeling right now, what is my intuition/guidance/etc. truly saying?” We would get the answer and chances are it would be correct. That’s not our mind being “rational”. That’s listening to our heart. Emotion confuses the mind, but the heart knows. So again, what if we’ve had it upside down all along?
Start listening to your heart. I’ve been told that it knows all things. Namaste.
Do you sometimes hear the saying “our thoughts become our reality” or something to that effect? This idea is not new, but it’s one that is certainly gaining traction. I won’t go too deep into the science behind it, and how at the molecular level everything, EVERYTHING, is energy. (Even at the tiniest point, all matter is mostly space.) But I will say this about vibration: nothing is ever stone still. There is constant and continuous movement. Movement creates vibrations, and vibrations will create a particular frequency. The frequency is the part I get excited about.
What is a tuning fork? It’s something that is used to bring something else into that particular resonance (or frequency). Picture a you-sized tuning fork right next to you. At one point (almost immediately, in fact) you start to vibrate at the same frequency as the tuning fork. Stay with me.
Science has now proven (although many already knew this) that emotions also have a particular frequency. Love has a high frequency while fear and anger have lower frequencies. Furthermore, people with certain illnesses give off particular frequencies while health vibrates at higher frequencies. Do you see where I’m going with this?
If you hold love in your thoughts, bring joy and gratitude into your actions and humble yourself into generosity then the frequency that you are vibrating at will shift. And, just like a tuning fork you will start to effect the vibration of all the things around you (people, opportunities, “coincidences”). Assuming your will is strong enough, of course.
This is where things like awareness of the moon cycles come into play. The moon is a giant magnet up in the cosmos, and it dictates the oceans & bodies of water which cover 70% of our planet (interestingly enough the same ratio of water exists in our body. Coincidence?) Every month, based on what astrological sign the moon is passing through, there is a unique “energy” that surrounds it. However, the New Moon in general is a time to let go, of endings and beginnings, and to set new intentions for the next 28 day cycle.
With this I invite you to take the reigns and create your life. That saying, “thoughts create our reality” – here’s where you get to play with it.
New Moon ritual for the un-ritualistic:
Sit in a quiet place (light a candle if you have one)
Take out a piece of paper or write in a journal
Make a list of all the things you want to let go of
- Physical illnesses, certain kinds of people (flaky, unavailable, etc.), ways of thinking or seeing yourself, negative self-talk.
Take that list and put it aside.
On another page write down all the things you want to bring into your life
- Material abundance, a partner, a raise, a job, proper sleep, will power, etc.
Now take that first piece of paper and as you rip it up say out loud or in your head,
“I now release all that does not serve me”
If it’s safe to – you can burn it, or emerge it in a bowl of water, or bury it in the earth or throw it up into wind (then pick it up so you’re not littering)
Then take the second piece of paper with everything you want to attract, fold it up, hold it to your heart and say,
“I am open for my heart’s desires to flow into my life”
Keep this piece of paper under your pillow, in your wallet, in a drawer, or even post it somewhere that you can look at it everyday.
As you get into the pattern of creating rituals like this, the frequency that you emit will begin to shift, and what you attract into your life will resonate with the particular vibrations you give off. You are the creator of your life. Enjoy.
It is safe to say that all sickness and unhappiness come
from the violation of the law of love. A new commandment
I give unto you, "Love one another," and in the Game of
Life, love or good-will takes every trick
Continual criticism produces rheumatism, as critical,
inharmonious thoughts cause unnatural deposits in the
blood, which settle in the joints.
False growths are caused by jealousy, hatred unforgiveness,
fear, etc. Every disease is caused by a mind not at ease.
Unforgiveness is the most
prolific cause of disease. It will harden arteries or liver, and
affect the eye-sight. In its train are endless ills.
~The Game of Life, Florence Scovel Shinn
The spring equinox takes place March 20-21st!! What the heck does that mean?
Well, the spring equinox is a time of renewal, new beginnings and watching the seeds of our intentions start to sprout. This is a perfect time to buy yourself some flowers, write down your intentions/desires of what you want to create and bring into your life, light a candle and watch your thoughts become reality!
Here's a great website to shed a little more light on the subject.
Archives of love, via the typed word: